William S. Pollack Livres

What real boys have to say: "A lot of people use words like 'psycho' or 'wacko' to refer to those feeling glum or contemplating suicide. These slang terms create further isolation in teens who already feel alone." —Alexander, 18, from a small town in the South. "A guy is supposed to be strong, tall, and fast, embodying the ideal athlete, while also being smart and nearly perfect." —Chandler, 14, from a suburb in the Northwest. "What I hate about this school is being picked on in the halls and just about everywhere else." —Cody, 14, from a suburb in New England. In this compelling follow-up, Dr. William Pollack delves into the experiences of boys aged 10 to 20, capturing their secret struggles and passions in their own words. Their candid voices reveal how outdated societal expectations compel them to hide feelings of isolation, depression, longing, love, and hope. We hear from boys and young men from diverse backgrounds, including survivors of the Columbine massacre, who share powerful stories about bullying, drugs, sports, school, parents, and relationships. Pollack also provides strategies for initiating conversations and practical templates for various situations. This eye-opening exploration is essential reading for both teenage boys and girls, offering invaluable insights for everyone in their lives.

With compassion and clarity, Richard Gartner shares insights from years of working with male survivors. The book's strength lies in its extensive use of clinical examples to illustrate problems and solutions on the healing path. It offers support, encouragement, and useful skills to men in recovery. For those who have experienced sexual abuse, this book provides information, hope, direction, and the assurance of not being alone. Dr. Gartner presents an accessible, compassionate guide that outlines the healing process for men who were hurt or abused as children, equipping them with tools to reclaim their lives. It is recommended as an essential resource for anyone on the healing journey. The book shines a bright light on the issues surrounding male abuse, making it a must-read for concerned individuals. It addresses the shame, confusion, and fear often associated with male abuse, replacing them with clear information. Many clinicians are likely to incorporate it into their practice, as it offers straightforward words of hope and a meaningful approach to overcoming the stigma and shame endured by many men. Dr. Gartner's accessible writing ensures that readers can easily grasp the complexities of male sexual abuse and recovery.

In seiner jahrzehntelangen Forschungstätigkeit hat William Pollack festgestellt, dass viele Jungen, die nach außen hin ganz unauffällig wirken, innerlich verzweifelt, orientierungslos und einsam sind. Woran liegt das? Schlüssig und anhand vieler Beispiele zeigt der Autor, dass Jungen einer Vielzahl von widersprüchlichen und unvereinbaren gesellschaftlichen Erwartungen und Verhaltensmaßregeln ausgesetzt sind. Wie sollen sie unter solchen Voraussetzungen ein stabiles Selbstwertgefühl entwickeln? Wie definiert sich das Wesen von Jungen? Wie unterscheiden sie sich von Mädchen, worin sind sie ihnen ähnlich? Was sollen wir von ihnen erwarten und was für sie anstreben? Was geschieht, wenn Jungen mit Problemen wie Scheidung der Eltern, Depression oder Gewalt konfrontiert werden? Anhand dieser und vieler weiterer Fragen, zu denen sich auch betroffene Jungen selbst äußern, führt Pollack seinen Lesern vor Augen, was die spezifischen Probleme von Jungen sind, und wie wir ihnen helfen können, sich freier und selbstbestimmter zu entwickeln.